When Your Biggest Speaking Fear Comes True

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As a speaker, there are many fears one can have. Forgetting your words. Failing to connect with an audience. And for me, my greatest fear has always been—losing my voice for a speaking gig. By the end of my first day of The Spotlight MasterTreat 2018, a few weekends ago, I had no voice. And if you were there, you …

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Use Your Voice to Create Opportunities for Others

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I’m often asked how I wound up speaking at the United Nations during the Commission on the Status of Women. The answer is simple—a graduate of my Your Spotlight Talk program recommended me. One of my juiciest corporate speaking and consulting contracts came from another alum of that same program. Curious about how I get interviewed on CNN with a …

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Specialness Kills Professional Speaking Success

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In part two of my Speaking Success Truth Bomb Series, I’m calling malarkey on one of the number one objections I hear for why someone can’t follow one of my recommendations. It’s the ole, I’m a special snowflake excuse. You ARE a special snowflake. I AM a special snowflake. We ALL are special snowflakes. We are unique, wondrous beings with …

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This Skill Will Accelerate Your Speaking Success

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In part one of this four-part speaking success truth bomb series, I’m dishing on the number one skill that accelerates speaking success—speaking to the conversation in your audience members’ heads. Now, I want to acknowledge one of my mentors, Jonathan Fields, for this concept of the “conversation in the head.” During one of his trainings, Jonathan spoke about how this …

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These 5 Words Radically Changed My Speaking Performance

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When I started my speaking career, I could have medaled in self-sabotage. Bury my voice behind other thought leaders’ ideas, research and opinions… check. Hustle for significance by using lots of slides and pack them with way too much information… check. Reject opportunities to show my mistakes, insecurities, humanity… double check. Of course, I had no idea I was getting …

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2 Truths and 1 Lie About Thought Leadership

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I recently led a virtual half-day retreat for the women in my Spotlight Speakers Collective. We talked about how to transition from thinking of ourselves as speakers, business owners, and influencers to thought leaders building movements that go beyond presentations, training, programs, and individual client offerings. We explored how to create larger ripples of impact through brand partnerships, physical product …

Unapologetic Truth Telling is My Brand Promise

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If we’re connected on Facebook, you may have seen me share the new branding photo above. I love this photo for several reasons. I’m wearing my favorite blazer and crystal necklace. I’m sitting outdoors in the middle of Petaluma (one of my new favorite cities) on a crisp, sunny winter day. I’m holding a Moxieful mug. How cool is that? …

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How to break-up with speaking anxiety (check-out my interview with Corinne Zupko)

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The first time I gave a speech, back in the third grade, I began my lengthy, dysfunctional relationship with anxiety. As you may know if you’ve gone through my Hotshot Speaker video training, my classmates laughed at me, I cried, and I made a pact (that I honored) to play safe and small. Do whatever it took never to feel …

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How “experts” are destroying the speaking industry

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Can I share something with you? I’ve been noticing a trend at many of the speaking events I’ve attended this year (maybe you are too) where most speakers fall into one of two camps. The Charlatan – This kind of a speaker, who frequently pops up at business building events, oozes salesiness. And even if what he or she is …