How to break-up with speaking anxiety (check-out my interview with Corinne Zupko)

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The first time I gave a speech, back in the third grade, I began my lengthy, dysfunctional relationship with anxiety. As you may know if you’ve gone through my Hotshot Speaker video training, my classmates laughed at me, I cried, and I made a pact (that I honored) to play safe and small. Do whatever it took never to feel …

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How “experts” are destroying the speaking industry

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Can I share something with you? I’ve been noticing a trend at many of the speaking events I’ve attended this year (maybe you are too) where most speakers fall into one of two camps. The Charlatan – This kind of a speaker, who frequently pops up at business building events, oozes salesiness. And even if what he or she is …

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These Ladies Booked Back-to-Back TEDx Talks (Now It’s Time for You to Wow Event Organizers)

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There is no greater source of pride than when someone in one of your programs emails you to say, “I booked a speaking gig!” When that person is a member of your first DIY virtual speaker training program, and the gig she booked was a TEDx talk… well, that’s even sweeter. Varelie Croes, the Founder and CEO of The Liv …


Speaking lessons from leading my mastermind

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One of the many things I love about December professionally (in addition to the two week break I take over the holidays to rest and restore before opening enrollment for my virtual speaker coaching program in early-January each year), is leading the women in my Spotlight Speakers Collective for a MasterTreat™ weekend. (If you’ve never been to one of my …

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Is feedback empowering or undermining your speaking performance?

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For far too many years, I’m ashamed to admit, I was absolutely positively lousy when it came to giving myself feedback as a speaker. I would think about (or if there was video, review) one of my performances and decide: Lex, you totally crushed it! OR Lex, you suckedy suck sucked. What’s wrong with you, sista? Both of these responses, …

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I want to retire the words Me Too

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While it’s the day before American Thanksgiving, and I know I am supposed to say how grateful I am to have you in my community (which I am), wish you a happy holiday (which I do), I also need to be honest and say my heart has felt like it’s been cut open for the better part of the last …

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If you want to be a changemaker, tell the truth

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Every time there’s a whistle blowing moment covered by the media, particularly when it revolves around sexual abuse or sexual harassment, I lose my breath a bit. At four-years old, when I told my family I was being sexually abused by a loved one, the reactions were… mixed. (That’s the polite way of saying that while a few people sought …

Can I share a workshop secret with you?

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Although we have a strict rule in our house, “no secrets, only surprises,” I figured if I titled this post “a workshop surprise” you might have gotten the wrong idea. One of the biggest mistakes I see my clients make when leading their live workshops is striving to come up with an original opening. And the problem with “original” is …