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Why being “good” may be anything but

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F*ck. F*ck. F*ck. F*ck. F*ck. “What did you say, sweetie?” I asked, hoping I’d heard my daughter incorrectly.   And then she said it again. And again. And…again. After I put my eyes back into my sockets, unclenched my jaw and remembered how to breathe, my immediate next thought was, I’m a horrible mother. I knew my daughter had learned …

speaker fees

My least favorite question as a speaker – and how I respond to it

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What’s your speaker fee? When I’m asked that question, truth be told, I usually feel like I’m going to vomit a bit in my own mouth. And the reason has nothing to do (finally!) with my sense of my monetary value or perceived worthiness regarding my right to earn well and do great work. (However, it did, for a long …

I will NOT apologize for this (and I hope you won’t either)

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I have spent a lot of time crying over the last couple of weeks. Immediately after the opening weekend of my Influencer Academy women’s leadership program, my husband and I tragically and unexpectedly lost someone close to us. And then, the next day, I embarked on my five-day storytelling challenge for speakers. During the challenge, I witnessed women from four …

The source of my ninjalike productivity (plus free offer to increase yours)

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If a ninja is defined as someone who “excels in a particular skill or activity,” I feel very comfortable proclaiming myself not only a ninja speaking coach but also a ninja when it comes to my entrepreneurial productivity. For example, in September the week before leading a 3-day retreat, I knocked out all of the emails comprising my Find Your …

THIS is what people want from you as a speaker

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Oh Lex, I could never share THAT story. This is a refrain I’ve heard hundreds of times from my clients and community members. In fact, at least 1/3 of the women in my Spotlight Speakers Collective said something like that while I helped them curate material for the speaker reels they filmed with me a few weeks back. I don’t …

What drives you bonkers as a parent makes you an EXCELLENT public speaker!

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A few weeks ago my daughter woke up one morning and asked me, “Mommy, what are we doing today?” I told her, “First, we’ll go to the potty.” And before I could get out, “And then…” she asked, “Why?” And, if you are a parent you know exactly where this is going, she’s asked me, “Why?” after almost everything I’ve …

If you want it badly, let me help (VIP speaker coaching opportunity)

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A few months ago I asked my daughter, “How can I help you stop sucking your thumb?” Although she wasn’t yet two-and-half years old, given that I sucked my thumb until I was close to ten years old (and in my Hotshot Speaker Video Training I share the negative impact that had on my speaking), I was eager to support …

Speakers Need to Master the Pause – Here’s Why

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Your program sounds great, but I’m pausing until the fall so that I can… My team and I received many emails with some version of this line last summer during one of our program launches. Now, while it was crushing to read these words again and again given how much head, heart, soul and hustle we had poured into said …

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4 Tips to Successfully Launch a Mastermind Group (or High Level Program)

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For the last two weeks I’ve had the awesome opportunity (and responsibility) of interviewing prospective candidates for the inaugural Spotlight Speakers Collective. Because the idea for the Collective has been baking for a number of years, I was able (even in the first iteration) to be as intentional with how I curate my rock star group as I am with …

How I’m Celebrating My Birthday (stepping into Melinda Gates’ shoes and channeling Brené Brown)

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Half my lifetime ago, almost to the day, I sat in the pews at the St. Madeleine Sophie Catholic Church listening to Melinda Gates address my senior class during our graduation. Now, on what will definitely be my most exciting birthday, I’m traveling back to my alma mater to deliver the high school commencement address. I was brought to deep, …