speaking feedback

Is feedback empowering or undermining your speaking performance?

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For far too many years, I’m ashamed to admit, I was absolutely positively lousy when it came to giving myself feedback as a speaker. I would think about (or if there was video, review) one of my performances and decide: Lex, you totally crushed it! OR Lex, you suckedy suck sucked. What’s wrong with you, sista? Both of these responses, …

I want to retire the words me too

I want to retire the words Me Too

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While it’s the day before American Thanksgiving, and I know I am supposed to say how grateful I am to have you in my community (which I am), wish you a happy holiday (which I do), I also need to be honest and say my heart has felt like it’s been cut open for the better part of the last …

tell the truth

If you want to be a changemaker, tell the truth

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Every time there’s a whistle blowing moment covered by the media, particularly when it revolves around sexual abuse or sexual harassment, I lose my breath a bit. At four-years old, when I told my family I was being sexually abused by a loved one, the reactions were… mixed. (That’s the polite way of saying that while a few people sought …

Can I share a workshop secret with you?

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Although we have a strict rule in our house, “no secrets, only surprises,” I figured if I titled this post “a workshop surprise” you might have gotten the wrong idea. One of the biggest mistakes I see my clients make when leading their live workshops is striving to come up with an original opening. And the problem with “original” is …

COO

Meet my hunky COO (big announcement)

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In some capacity, I’ve envisioned making the kind of announcement I’m about to make for the last four years, even if it wasn’t until this summer that I felt certain it was time to make the following decision. Drumroll please… I’m excited to introduce you to my new COO, my husband, Stephen. While both Steve and I are a little …

warmth

The overlooked quality that turns good speakers into great speakers

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I recently was considering an opportunity to support a thought leader with a launch. In addition to determining whether I had interest in the content of her offering, and the time to dedicate to the promotion, I also needed to suss out whether or not the opportunity would appeal to my audience. (In case you haven’t noticed, I’m very choosy …

When your fear is greater than your desire

When your fear is greater than your desire

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My last 90 days have been pretty epic. I’ve closed some super sexy speaking engagements. I hosted my third annual The Spotlight MasterTreat. I’m in the homestretch of my most profitable program launch to date. I’ve traveled a lot—to 5 different cities. I’ve retreated and masterminded with some amazing entrepreneurs on both coasts of the country. Made some new business …

Can your coach give you the speaking career (and biz) you crave?

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What got you to where you are—it won’t get you to where you want to be. I shared these words with my women at The Spotlight MasterTreat a few weeks ago. Aren’t they an inspired looking bunch?!   The mindset, habits, skills and relationships that get you to your first level of success (whether you define that by number of …

What It Means to “Do You” as a Speaker

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Just do you. You’ve likely heard the phrase before. It might have made you laugh. Or roll your eyes. Or both! As a speaking coach, much of my work is showing entrepreneurs and visionary leaders how to be themselves when they speak. And lately, just do you has come out of my mouth. A lot. For I see so many …