me too

I want to retire the words Me Too

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While it’s the day before American Thanksgiving, and I know I am supposed to say how grateful I am to have you in my community (which I am), wish you a happy holiday (which I do), I also need to be honest and say my heart has felt like it’s been cut open for the better part of the last …

good girl

Why being “good” may be anything but

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F*ck. F*ck. F*ck. F*ck. F*ck. “What did you say, sweetie?” I asked, hoping I’d heard my daughter incorrectly.   And then she said it again. And again. And…again. After I put my eyes back into my sockets, unclenched my jaw and remembered how to breathe, my immediate next thought was, I’m a horrible mother. I knew my daughter had learned …

Want to dress for success on stage?

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I’ve anticipated this week for a loooooooong time. The 10 women in the inaugural cohort of the Spotlight Speakers Collective are heading to Las Vegas to spend several days with me developing their speaking skills, masterminding around their speaking and business goals, and developing their speaking reels. 1 of the 10 reasons I’m overjoyed to be pouring all of myself …

What drives you bonkers as a parent makes you an EXCELLENT public speaker!

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A few weeks ago my daughter woke up one morning and asked me, “Mommy, what are we doing today?” I told her, “First, we’ll go to the potty.” And before I could get out, “And then…” she asked, “Why?” And, if you are a parent you know exactly where this is going, she’s asked me, “Why?” after almost everything I’ve …

How I’m Celebrating My Birthday (stepping into Melinda Gates’ shoes and channeling Brené Brown)

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Half my lifetime ago, almost to the day, I sat in the pews at the St. Madeleine Sophie Catholic Church listening to Melinda Gates address my senior class during our graduation. Now, on what will definitely be my most exciting birthday, I’m traveling back to my alma mater to deliver the high school commencement address. I was brought to deep, …

We are ALL impostors (plus, a big announcement)

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When Sheryl Sandberg talked about the “impostor syndrome” in Lean In, she brought into mainstream discourse a condition most of us have experienced even if we didn’t previously have a name for it. In the last 5 years since Sandberg’s book, there have been hundreds of articles, books, podcasts, training programs, etc. discussing the prevalence of high achieving women (and …

I spoke at the United Nations! (and why cultural understanding matters when speaking)

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As many of you saw on Facebook, I had the extraordinary privilege of delivering a talk, “The missing ingredient in most women’s leadership programs,” at the United Nations last week – in conjunction with the Commission on the Status of Women. I’ve been asked by many of you how this opportunity emerged, and while I’ve never been one to “kiss …

Take a Stand with Fran Drescher, Lewis Howes, Deborah Kagan & ME!

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Last weekend I listened to a phenomenal conversation between Elizabeth Gilbert and Brené Brown on Liz’s Magic Lessons podcast. They addressed many topics at the intersections of creativity and personal narrative, including when it’s appropriate to share your stories. After all, Brené has become connected to her quote, “Shame cannot survive being spoken.” But… Brené is also unwavering in her …

You’re not an [insert expletive]… you just communicated like one

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Normally, if my husband Steve said something like this to me, I’d be devastated. But a few weeks ago, they were the EXACT words I needed to hear. Earlier that day I was feeling a little battered and bruised after one of my webinars. I had been really off of my delivery game. Not only had I used a lot …

TEDx Alexia Hands in Pockets

PowerPoint Mishaps, Keeping Secrets and other Lessons in Leadership

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A couple of weeks ago I had the privilege of hosting Power of the Suit, a fashion show and women’s leadership panel, put on by Global Gaming Women and Cintas. It fell during the tail end of a 6-week period where my own leadership practice has been challenged (and strengthened) by opportunities where I did not know what to say, …