good girl

Why being “good” may be anything but

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F*ck. F*ck. F*ck. F*ck. F*ck. “What did you say, sweetie?” I asked, hoping I’d heard my daughter incorrectly.   And then she said it again. And again. And…again. After I put my eyes back into my sockets, unclenched my jaw and remembered how to breathe, my immediate next thought was, I’m a horrible mother. I knew my daughter had learned …

speaker fees

My least favorite question as a speaker – and how I respond to it

Alexia Coaching, Money, Public Speaking 1 Comment

What’s your speaker fee? When I’m asked that question, truth be told, I usually feel like I’m going to vomit a bit in my own mouth. And the reason has nothing to do (finally!) with my sense of my monetary value or perceived worthiness regarding my right to earn well and do great work. (However, it did, for a long …

I will NOT apologize for this (and I hope you won’t either)

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I have spent a lot of time crying over the last couple of weeks. Immediately after the opening weekend of my Influencer Academy women’s leadership program, my husband and I tragically and unexpectedly lost someone close to us. And then, the next day, I embarked on my five-day storytelling challenge for speakers. During the challenge, I witnessed women from four …

The source of my ninjalike productivity (plus free offer to increase yours)

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If a ninja is defined as someone who “excels in a particular skill or activity,” I feel very comfortable proclaiming myself not only a ninja speaking coach but also a ninja when it comes to my entrepreneurial productivity. For example, in September the week before leading a 3-day retreat, I knocked out all of the emails comprising my Find Your …

How to dynamize your webinars & live presentations

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In my last blog post, I shared with you the importance of telling your story on stage, and invited you to join my free Find Your ‘Secret Sauce’ as a Storyteller Facebook Live Challenge to buff up the muscles to tell powerful (and high-converting) stories on stage. One of the stages where storytelling, unfortunately, is often at its weakest—webinars. When …

THIS is what people want from you as a speaker

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Oh Lex, I could never share THAT story. This is a refrain I’ve heard hundreds of times from my clients and community members. In fact, at least 1/3 of the women in my Spotlight Speakers Collective said something like that while I helped them curate material for the speaker reels they filmed with me a few weeks back. I don’t …

How to find freedom as a speaker (and in biz) – interview with Natalie Sisson

Alexia Happiness, Money, Public Speaking, Travel 1 Comment

Up until 4 years ago, building a business around speaking and training DID NOT amplify my freedom. Rather, it got me in my way of it. I felt like I was constantly waiting for an HR leader or event planner to get back to me and let me know if I was the chosen one for an opportunity. I selected …

Want to dress for success on stage?

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I’ve anticipated this week for a loooooooong time. The 10 women in the inaugural cohort of the Spotlight Speakers Collective are heading to Las Vegas to spend several days with me developing their speaking skills, masterminding around their speaking and business goals, and developing their speaking reels. 1 of the 10 reasons I’m overjoyed to be pouring all of myself …

What drives you bonkers as a parent makes you an EXCELLENT public speaker!

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A few weeks ago my daughter woke up one morning and asked me, “Mommy, what are we doing today?” I told her, “First, we’ll go to the potty.” And before I could get out, “And then…” she asked, “Why?” And, if you are a parent you know exactly where this is going, she’s asked me, “Why?” after almost everything I’ve …

If you want it badly, let me help (VIP speaker coaching opportunity)

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A few months ago I asked my daughter, “How can I help you stop sucking your thumb?” Although she wasn’t yet two-and-half years old, given that I sucked my thumb until I was close to ten years old (and in my Hotshot Speaker Video Training I share the negative impact that had on my speaking), I was eager to support …