What It Means to “Do You” as a Speaker

AlexiaPublic Speaking

Just do you. You’ve likely heard the phrase before. It might have made you laugh. Or roll your eyes. Or both! As a speaking coach, much of my work is showing entrepreneurs and visionary leaders how to be themselves when they speak. And lately, just do you has come out of my mouth. A lot. For I see so many …

How to align with spirit to call in speaking opportunities beyond your wildest dreams

AlexiaCoaching, Happiness, Public Speaking

One of my clients, “Joyce”, had been in a 60-day email exchange with a Fortune 500 company. After choosing not to follow-up anymore, the company emailed confirming a date for her presentation and agreed to her full speaker fee. Another client, “Alice”, with zero corporate consulting experience, received a call for a full-day consulting opportunity. In less than a week …

MY WISH FOR YOU THIS INTERNATIONAL WOMEN’S DAY

AlexiaCoaching, Happiness, Public Speaking, Work-Life Balance

Happy International Women’s Day! If you are not familiar with what that means, for over a century March 8 has been celebrated around the world as a day to shine a light and honor global women’s achievements, and identify ongoing priorities for working towards gender equality. In case you didn’t know, the theme of 2017 is #BeBoldForChange. Apropos to stepping …

Join me in the convergence of spiritual and active people

AlexiaCommunication, Happiness, Leadership, Personal Branding, Personal Development, Women in Business

Political commentator and social activist Van Jones has said, “It’s in the convergence of spiritual people becoming active and active people becoming spiritual that the hope of humanity now rests.” I don’t believe these big words are over stated – even if they were initially articulated before the current times they describe. There has never been, nor do I suspect …

Who (and what) are you hiding behind?

AlexiaCoaching, Communication, Happiness, Public Speaking

Over the last few months, multiple friends from my pre-business life have re-emerged. And in each case, the person has said something along the lines of— Lex, it’s so great to see you claim your voice and step into the spotlight. Hearing such words is incredibly validating. For while I’m one of the lucky ones (I had parents and teachers …

How much spotlight can you stand? (join me for a FREE event)

AlexiaCoaching, Communication, Happiness, Public Speaking

Last week I did something very uncharacteristically Lex. I bought a purse. A name brand purse. A purse that totalled more than my last three or four purses combined. And it made me deeply uncomfortable. I first saw the purse a few months ago during what happened to be one of my highest earning months of the year, and I …

good girl

Why being “good” may be anything but

AlexiaCareer Advice, Coaching, Happiness, Leadership, Women's Issues, Work-Life Balance

F*ck. F*ck. F*ck. F*ck. F*ck. “What did you say, sweetie?” I asked, hoping I’d heard my daughter incorrectly.   And then she said it again. And again. And…again. After I put my eyes back into my sockets, unclenched my jaw and remembered how to breathe, my immediate next thought was, I’m a horrible mother. I knew my daughter had learned …

speaker fees

My least favorite question as a speaker – and how I respond to it

AlexiaCoaching, Money, Public Speaking

What’s your speaker fee? When I’m asked that question, truth be told, I usually feel like I’m going to vomit a bit in my own mouth. And the reason has nothing to do (finally!) with my sense of my monetary value or perceived worthiness regarding my right to earn well and do great work. (However, it did, for a long …

I will NOT apologize for this (and I hope you won’t either)

AlexiaCoaching, Personal Development, Public Speaking

I have spent a lot of time crying over the last couple of weeks. Immediately after the opening weekend of my Influencer Academy women’s leadership program, my husband and I tragically and unexpectedly lost someone close to us. And then, the next day, I embarked on my five-day storytelling challenge for speakers. During the challenge, I witnessed women from four …