Speaking Performance

These 5 Words Radically Changed My Speaking Performance

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When I started my speaking career, I could have medaled in self-sabotage. Bury my voice behind other thought leaders’ ideas, research and opinions… check. Hustle for significance by using lots of slides and pack them with way too much information… check. Reject opportunities to show my mistakes, insecurities, humanity… double check. Of course, I had no idea I was getting …

Thought Leadership

2 Truths and 1 Lie About Thought Leadership

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I recently led a virtual half-day retreat for the women in my Spotlight Speakers Collective. We talked about how to transition from thinking of ourselves as speakers, business owners, and influencers to thought leaders building movements that go beyond presentations, training, programs, and individual client offerings. We explored how to create larger ripples of impact through brand partnerships, physical product …

anxiety

How to break-up with speaking anxiety (check-out my interview with Corinne Zupko)

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The first time I gave a speech, back in the third grade, I began my lengthy, dysfunctional relationship with anxiety. As you may know if you’ve gone through my Hotshot Speaker video training, my classmates laughed at me, I cried, and I made a pact (that I honored) to play safe and small. Do whatever it took never to feel …

speaking industry

How “experts” are destroying the speaking industry

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Can I share something with you? I’ve been noticing a trend at many of the speaking events I’ve attended this year (maybe you are too) where most speakers fall into one of two camps. The Charlatan – This kind of a speaker, who frequently pops up at business building events, oozes salesiness. And even if what he or she is …

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These Ladies Booked Back-to-Back TEDx Talks (Now It’s Time for You to Wow Event Organizers)

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There is no greater source of pride than when someone in one of your programs emails you to say, “I booked a speaking gig!” When that person is a member of your first DIY virtual speaker training program, and the gig she booked was a TEDx talk… well, that’s even sweeter. Varelie Croes, the Founder and CEO of The Liv …

mastermind

Speaking lessons from leading my mastermind

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One of the many things I love about December professionally (in addition to the two week break I take over the holidays to rest and restore before opening enrollment for my virtual speaker coaching program in early-January each year), is leading the women in my Spotlight Speakers Collective for a MasterTreat™ weekend. (If you’ve never been to one of my …

speaking feedback

Is feedback empowering or undermining your speaking performance?

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For far too many years, I’m ashamed to admit, I was absolutely positively lousy when it came to giving myself feedback as a speaker. I would think about (or if there was video, review) one of my performances and decide: Lex, you totally crushed it! OR Lex, you suckedy suck sucked. What’s wrong with you, sista? Both of these responses, …

me too

I want to retire the words Me Too

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While it’s the day before American Thanksgiving, and I know I am supposed to say how grateful I am to have you in my community (which I am), wish you a happy holiday (which I do), I also need to be honest and say my heart has felt like it’s been cut open for the better part of the last …

tell the truth

If you want to be a changemaker, tell the truth

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Every time there’s a whistle blowing moment covered by the media, particularly when it revolves around sexual abuse or sexual harassment, I lose my breath a bit. At four-years old, when I told my family I was being sexually abused by a loved one, the reactions were… mixed. (That’s the polite way of saying that while a few people sought …