good girl

Why being “good” may be anything but

AlexiaCareer Advice, Coaching, Happiness, Leadership, Women's Issues, Work-Life Balance

F*ck. F*ck. F*ck. F*ck. F*ck. “What did you say, sweetie?” I asked, hoping I’d heard my daughter incorrectly.   And then she said it again. And again. And…again. After I put my eyes back into my sockets, unclenched my jaw and remembered how to breathe, my immediate next thought was, I’m a horrible mother. I knew my daughter had learned …

Speakers Need to Master the Pause – Here’s Why

AlexiaCoaching, Happiness, Public Speaking

Your program sounds great, but I’m pausing until the fall so that I can… My team and I received many emails with some version of this line last summer during one of our program launches. Now, while it was crushing to read these words again and again given how much head, heart, soul and hustle we had poured into said …

We are ALL impostors (plus, a big announcement)

AlexiaCoaching, Communication, Happiness, Public Speaking, Women's Issues

When Sheryl Sandberg talked about the “impostor syndrome” in Lean In, she brought into mainstream discourse a condition most of us have experienced even if we didn’t previously have a name for it. In the last 5 years since Sandberg’s book, there have been hundreds of articles, books, podcasts, training programs, etc. discussing the prevalence of high achieving women (and …

I’m on fire (literally!) – my $100K speech + my biggest podcast interview

AlexiaCareer Advice, Coaching, Happiness, Public Speaking, Uncategorized

One of the questions I often pose in my Spotlight Speakers Salon Facebook group is, “What’s your dream opportunity?” For I know that whenever I declare a media outlet or stage where I aspire to speak (and then release my attachment to it), said media outlet or stage (or one even better) shows up. 2016 is the Year of the …

Haters, Copycats and Raving Fans (why they have everything and nothing to do with you)

AlexiaCommunication, Happiness, Personal Development, Public Speaking, Work-Life Balance

I’m finally experiencing the post-launch afterglow I’ve heard online business friends and colleagues mention which has thus far eluded me. My insides feel as soft and fluffy as marshmallows. I wake up and my first thought is, “thank you,” rather than, “What do I need to attend to first?” I laugh and cuddle with my family during non-work hours without …

How I let my daughter see me shine (plus an invitation to my FREE speaking master class)

AlexiaCoaching, Communication, Happiness, Public Speaking

It’s taken me close to 2 years to reconcile my desire to do big work in the world with my coexisting desire to be home as much as possible with my daughter while I do it. While I work at least a few hours 6 days a week, and many days a “few” means up to 9 or 10 hours, …

The danger of taking advice from people like me

AlexiaCoaching, Communication, Happiness, Personal Development, Public Speaking, Teaching

While we are just a few days away from “falling back” and moving into Daylight Saving Time, the last few weeks there have been many moments where I’ve felt like I could just “fall down.” Although I’ve never felt more on purpose or happy, I’m simultaneously feeling wiped out. While to be fair having a series of 7-day workweeks and …

I’m So Over the Posturing

AlexiaCareer Advice, Communication, Happiness, Leadership, Money

Can I share a secret with you? I don’t naturally have good posture. I love this picture of me from when I was 5 or 6 months pregnant. I’m doing my thing…and my shoulders are unapologetically crooked. Despite starting ballet classes at 4 and dancing at the Pacific Northwest Ballet School as a tween, I’m typically my most comfortable when …

Candid speaking advice from a speaking coach so you don’t choke when you speak

Don’t Choke When You Speak

AlexiaCommunication, Happiness, Women's Issues

“I’m so excited. I’m so excited. I’m so excited. I’m so….scared.” I have always loved the Saved by the Bell episode when Elizabeth Berkley utters these words mid-meltdown. Fortunately, unlike Berkley’s character, Jessie Spano, I’ve never had an addiction to caffeine pills; but I have unsuccessfully dated perfectionism most of my life. And there is nowhere a perfectionist’s anxiety surfaces …