Who (and what) are you hiding behind?

AlexiaCoaching, Communication, Happiness, Public Speaking

Over the last few months, multiple friends from my pre-business life have re-emerged. And in each case, the person has said something along the lines of— Lex, it’s so great to see you claim your voice and step into the spotlight. Hearing such words is incredibly validating. For while I’m one of the lucky ones (I had parents and teachers …

How much spotlight can you stand? (join me for a FREE event)

AlexiaCoaching, Communication, Happiness, Public Speaking

Last week I did something very uncharacteristically Lex. I bought a purse. A name brand purse. A purse that totalled more than my last three or four purses combined. And it made me deeply uncomfortable. I first saw the purse a few months ago during what happened to be one of my highest earning months of the year, and I …

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Why being “good” may be anything but

AlexiaCareer Advice, Coaching, Happiness, Leadership, Women's Issues, Work-Life Balance

F*ck. F*ck. F*ck. F*ck. F*ck. “What did you say, sweetie?” I asked, hoping I’d heard my daughter incorrectly.   And then she said it again. And again. And…again. After I put my eyes back into my sockets, unclenched my jaw and remembered how to breathe, my immediate next thought was, I’m a horrible mother. I knew my daughter had learned …

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My least favorite question as a speaker – and how I respond to it

AlexiaCoaching, Money, Public Speaking

What’s your speaker fee? When I’m asked that question, truth be told, I usually feel like I’m going to vomit a bit in my own mouth. And the reason has nothing to do (finally!) with my sense of my monetary value or perceived worthiness regarding my right to earn well and do great work. (However, it did, for a long …

I will NOT apologize for this (and I hope you won’t either)

AlexiaCoaching, Personal Development, Public Speaking

I have spent a lot of time crying over the last couple of weeks. Immediately after the opening weekend of my Influencer Academy women’s leadership program, my husband and I tragically and unexpectedly lost someone close to us. And then, the next day, I embarked on my five-day storytelling challenge for speakers. During the challenge, I witnessed women from four …

The source of my ninjalike productivity (plus free offer to increase yours)

AlexiaCareer Advice, Coaching, Personal Development

If a ninja is defined as someone who “excels in a particular skill or activity,” I feel very comfortable proclaiming myself not only a ninja speaking coach but also a ninja when it comes to my entrepreneurial productivity. For example, in September the week before leading a 3-day retreat, I knocked out all of the emails comprising my Find Your …

THIS is what people want from you as a speaker

AlexiaCoaching

Oh Lex, I could never share THAT story. This is a refrain I’ve heard hundreds of times from my clients and community members. In fact, at least 1/3 of the women in my Spotlight Speakers Collective said something like that while I helped them curate material for the speaker reels they filmed with me a few weeks back. I don’t …

What drives you bonkers as a parent makes you an EXCELLENT public speaker!

AlexiaCoaching, Public Speaking, Women's Issues

A few weeks ago my daughter woke up one morning and asked me, “Mommy, what are we doing today?” I told her, “First, we’ll go to the potty.” And before I could get out, “And then…” she asked, “Why?” And, if you are a parent you know exactly where this is going, she’s asked me, “Why?” after almost everything I’ve …

If you want it badly, let me help (VIP speaker coaching opportunity)

AlexiaCoaching, Public Speaking

A few months ago I asked my daughter, “How can I help you stop sucking your thumb?” Although she wasn’t yet two-and-half years old, given that I sucked my thumb until I was close to ten years old (and in my Hotshot Speaker Video Training I share the negative impact that had on my speaking), I was eager to support …

Speakers Need to Master the Pause – Here’s Why

AlexiaCoaching, Happiness, Public Speaking

Your program sounds great, but I’m pausing until the fall so that I can… My team and I received many emails with some version of this line last summer during one of our program launches. Now, while it was crushing to read these words again and again given how much head, heart, soul and hustle we had poured into said …